Light for 2010
Welcome!
As 2010 rises on the horizon, I am incredibly grateful for everything – and that includes new developments and directions for The Language of Light, many of which will make it easier for all of us to serve and support each other on this journey.
Beginning in January, we’ll be hosting flash group chats through Savor Chat. I invite you to connect with the TLOL group on Facebook so you can participate in sharing your stories and successes around ego awareness.
The “official” book launch date for ego: A Primer is February 3rd, but you can get a jump start here. There are also a never ending stream of inspiring opportunities – developing and facilitating a workshop for women and men who’ve experienced sexual violence, co-creating a mentoring program for those who’ve experienced prison, and so much more.
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I wish you all a peaceful, joyous and prosperous 2010!
Be light!
staci
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Perception May Equal Reality, But It’s Far From The Truth
For years, when I sought advice from my mother about a major decision, the conversation deteriorated into an argument. Because of perceptions locked within both of our minds, no matter what she said, I heard, “You are not capable of handling this.” And when I didn’t agree with her, she heard, “My opinion doesn’t matter.” This led to some awful disagreements and much unpleasantness.
My pattern has been – Ask her for advice, repeat the negative exchange, make a commitment not to involve her in my decision making process, forget I made the commitment, ask for her counsel, repeat. As we’ve both evolved and become more of who we really are, the intensity level of the pattern has been mitigated, but it still existed.
For some reason, mothers and children seem to fall prey to a pattern like this more frequently than any other relationship. Perhaps it’s the cellular memory from childhood of striving for independence and perceiving the mother doesn’t support that when she corrects or redirects. Whatever the cause, the result is the same – hearing subtext where there is none and creating chaos and negativity.
Last night, my mother and I discussed the solution I’ve chosen for selling my house. There was only one hiccup and we sailed right through it and had a meaningful conversation filled with valuable suggestions and receptivity. This morning, I realized that all of those years I heard, “You can’t handle this,” what she was saying was, “Let me help you empower yourself.”
Too often, we allow ego to “hear” what it wants, covering the truth with its smoke and mirrors and preventing us from experiencing peace – which is where power lies. How grateful I am to have broken that destructive habit, to hear what is being said instead of what ego perceives. To rise above perception, ignore “reality” and know the truth.